The delay in gratification

In today’s world, everything is instant. Knowledge, information, happiness, gratification and even food is instant. Children are used to getting most of the things they are ask for instantly. Your son wants a Lego set, you go online and  buy it from one of the many websites and it’s delivered within a few days time. When I was young, if we wanted something it was a long long route. First to muster up the courage to ask my parents for it. Then would come the wait for some special occasion like maybe the birthday when we would have the most probability of getting what we asked for. And lastly scouring the supermarket to find the item. And mind you, my dad would only go to one or maximum two shops and we were expected to find it there or pick up something else.

When I was 6, I joined the Indian School, Muscat. I feel it was one of the best educational institutions that I have been in. The base that this school has given me is what has made me into the person I am today. This is the place that reared the reader in me. We had a library period every week from the 1st standard. So the little kids library was different from the big kids library. Books were kept and arranged in a way that would attract young minds. Here starts my love story with books and reading. Each week, we were allowed to take one book home. We could read as much as we want in the library period too. The first few weeks, I would struggle to finish the book on the time. Then as I read, I was able to finish the book given, on time. This went on for a few months and it came to a point that I would finish my book before it was time to return it. I wished that I could take some other books that I had seen at the library but truth be told, I didn’t know the way to go to the library alone so had to wait till the period each week till the class teacher would take us there. Once I mustered my courage to ask the librarian if I could take 2 books home. She said a kind and firm ‘No’. Maybe you were not supposed to read so fast or so much. Finally having no other go, I started looking out for classmates who were least interested in books during the library period. I managed to find 2 boys who had more fun trying to balance the book on their fingers and sleeping on it. Once the targets were identified, I asked them if I could borrow the books that they took home. Both of them had quizzical look on their faces as if saying to each other, ” Is she crazy? Whatever.” They were more than happy to give me since if their moms saw the books in their bags they were made to read them ‘forcefully’:mrgreen:. They were happy that those books need not appear in their bags ever again. And I was thrilled to be able to take home 3 books each week. Each library period was like a secret mission. I would secretly select the books and signal the boys.They would take it and register it under their names. And once we are back in the classroom, books were exchanged under tables ;). I know how much I had struggled to be able to get books to read. And unlike in India, I don’t think we had public libraries in Muscat (long long ago).
Now when I see the amount of books my 3 year old has, I feel a twige of jealousy that he owns more books than I might have ever had in my school years. I am also grateful that we as parents are in a position to provide that for him. I am sure that there are still children out there who wouldn’t be in the same situation.


Most kids in this generation will not really know how to wait for things and know the happiness that comes with delayed gratification unless we parents take planned efforts for it. Like for example, Vi is not given everything he asks for immediately. Some things that he asks for are reserved to be birthday presents (or the more recent addition, Santa Claus gishts -as he calls them😂). Like last year, the scooter was what he had been asking from over 8 months. And each time we would tell him that we would buy it for his birthday. And both his Papa and I were more excited than him when his birthday finally arrived and we gifted it to him. The joy on his face was really worth the wait and he really does treasure it more than the other toys he has. I really feel a delay in gratification really leads to increased happiness and the children these days are really missing out on this happiness.

This is the first time that I am taking part in a blogging contest. And this one in particular is of interest to me since it is associated with Flintobox. Ever since I had heard of this product I had wanted to try one for Vi, since it looks like something that he might find interesting. So I went to their website to check out their delivery options and realised that they ship only in India. Now I am blogging so that my nephew who lives in India can try out Flintobox. And since Flintobox releases a new theme only once a month,  it gels  well with what I said about delayed gratification. It does make kids and adults wait until the next month for the next box to arrive.

This post is being written for the #BachpanWithFlinto blogger contest.

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